Love this book.
Here's an excerpt I particularly like:
"The most loving person is the person who is self-centered.
People think, "If I can just love others, they will love me. Then I will be lovable and I can love me." Deep down we've been lead to believe we are bad, unworthy, missing some essential ingredient and we have to behave well to be loved.
...Your first relationship must be with your Self. You must first learn to honour and cherish and love your Self. You must first see yourself as worthy before you can see another as worthy.
Honour your feelings means to honour the self. Then you can honour the feelings of another. Have the feeling and then you step back from the rage, upset, disgust - you disown them as not who you want to be. You try them out until you realize you don't want to do that anymore - it's no longer who you want to be."